Happy Thanksgiving, guy! Since you previously stated that your blog is a journal of your relationship with Judah that you will one day share with him, I hoped some mention of his first birthday would appear. I'm sure in later years when you do share with Judah you will want to have some milestones appearing. What is bigger than a first birthday? I am bewildered with the infrequent entries that you make. Most of them have to do with 'play dates' at the mall, living with Ozzie and Sharon etc. Sure - I guess I AM looking for those fun times, but also for the important times in his life. I hope in the future you will be able to bear/share some of the load of parenting. It's important that Judah know that you are in his life for doctor's appointments, buying him clothing, providing for his daily needs. So far, that hasn't hit the radar of the blog. Although I'm sure at the moment you think you will never forget over the years you will. You need to record these things for him AND for you.
Thanks Jacquie for your concern. I love it when people feel they can gather a persons parenting skills or moral character etc... from reading a persons blog or reading an email. The truth is I love my son more than life it self and would do anything for him. I would love to share more about Judah's birthday but the sad fact was I wasn't allowed or invited to Judahs birthday party. I did however get to talk with him on the phone which broke my heart and mended it at the same time.(I'm not sure you can understand that) The fact is my blog is to share my son with so many that haven't been able to be apart of Judahs life and all i can do is share what I've been able to be apart of(not because I don't try). But since you are so concerned I will be celebrating Judahs birthday on Tues and will be posting about it when it does happen. However I may not post about it that night since i update my blog when I can or have time but rest easy I'll share it with you when i can. Most are lucky that I post at all since it is something that I find more of a chore than blessing but as i said I do it to share my son with others. Although I love sharing my son with people it doesn't mean that I will share everything, there are many things that I will not share because they are moments that I want to keep between a father and son. You are more than welcome to come with me to see my son if you are still concerned that I don't take every moment I have with my son as a blessing. I hope this answers your questions. If not feel free to email me rather than discuss it on my blog.
paul
p.s. it is also my hope someday that i am allowed to share in the parenting load with my son, many dads fight to get out of that responsibility but I long for it. You might want to do your homework before making comments like that in the future.
Whoa - I AM stunned that I offended you. You missed the intent entirely. I guess in my effort to encourage, I came across as if I was mothering you - just like the olden days, huh? Even though there's only 7 years difference in our age. I'm on your team Paul. I just know from personal experience that when your children are older, all those cute little things that you think you could NEVER forget, well they become fuzzy or lost. What a wonderful place (the blog) to record those memories and feelings while they are fresh.
Also, the fact that quality time is extremely important, at some point in a child's (and in a parent's) life, QUANTITY plays a part. That's black and white - not a criticism of YOU.
Love you, JQ
P.S. I'm a mother. Indeed, I am capable of understanding a heart breaking and mending at the same moment. It happens many times a day! There....I was offended also :) But I'm over it ;)
Where do I start....I guess for those of you who don't know...Paul does make Judah his number one priority. What father would keep going after all the obstacles given to him. I guess my only answer is being a true dedicated father who believes in a God that has a purpose in all he does. Paul you will continue to be in our prayers....hopefully change is in the path this week :)
Hey Paul... I also just came over to see if you had done a post for Judah's first birthday yet! Can't wait to see all of his new presents - I'm sure he'll be thrilled. :) I also wanted to tell you that I was sorry you weren't able to work it out to come see Judah on Thanksgiving, and that you had to miss his birthday visit last weekend! It was nice of you to call, though - I hope you're feeling better! See you this week.
It was unfortunate that I got the flu my last visit but his birthday was before that, it would have been nice to be there for his party. I can say Jodi that the past couple weeks you have been more willing or open to the idea of me spending more time with Judah and I appreciate that very much. You being flexible makes the situation a whole lot better. I have my assumptions as to why but whatever it is the change of heart is a good change.
P.S. I DID send an email (before my first post). Neither the email or my second post have been answered. I know you're busy - aren't we all :) Are you still using the same hotmail address that appears on this blog?
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Finally got a chance to check out your blog and son. He is amazing, and your right what an accountability he is.
Happy Thanksgiving, guy! Since you previously stated that your blog is a journal of your relationship with Judah that you will one day share with him, I hoped some mention of his first birthday would appear. I'm sure in later years when you do share with Judah you will want to have some milestones appearing. What is bigger than a first birthday? I am bewildered with the infrequent entries that you make. Most of them have to do with 'play dates' at the mall, living with Ozzie and Sharon etc. Sure - I guess I AM looking for those fun times, but also for the important times in his life. I hope in the future you will be able to bear/share some of the load of parenting. It's important that Judah know that you are in his life for doctor's appointments, buying him clothing, providing for his daily needs. So far, that hasn't hit the radar of the blog. Although I'm sure at the moment you think you will never forget over the years you will. You need to record these things for him AND for you.
JQ
Thanks Jacquie for your concern. I love it when people feel they can gather a persons parenting skills or moral character etc... from reading a persons blog or reading an email. The truth is I love my son more than life it self and would do anything for him. I would love to share more about Judah's birthday but the sad fact was I wasn't allowed or invited to Judahs birthday party. I did however get to talk with him on the phone which broke my heart and mended it at the same time.(I'm not sure you can understand that) The fact is my blog is to share my son with so many that haven't been able to be apart of Judahs life and all i can do is share what I've been able to be apart of(not because I don't try). But since you are so concerned I will be celebrating Judahs birthday on Tues and will be posting about it when it does happen. However I may not post about it that night since i update my blog when I can or have time but rest easy I'll share it with you when i can. Most are lucky that I post at all since it is something that I find more of a chore than blessing but as i said I do it to share my son with others. Although I love sharing my son with people it doesn't mean that I will share everything, there are many things that I will not share because they are moments that I want to keep between a father and son. You are more than welcome to come with me to see my son if you are still concerned that I don't take every moment I have with my son as a blessing. I hope this answers your questions. If not feel free to email me rather than discuss it on my blog.
paul
p.s. it is also my hope someday that i am allowed to share in the parenting load with my son, many dads fight to get out of that responsibility but I long for it. You might want to do your homework before making comments like that in the future.
Whoa - I AM stunned that I offended you. You missed the intent entirely. I guess in my effort to encourage, I came across as if I was mothering you - just like the olden days, huh? Even though there's only 7 years difference in our age. I'm on your team Paul. I just know from personal experience that when your children are older, all those cute little things that you think you could NEVER forget, well they become fuzzy or lost. What a wonderful place (the blog) to record those memories and feelings while they are fresh.
Also, the fact that quality time is extremely important, at some point in a child's (and in a parent's) life, QUANTITY plays a part. That's black and white - not a criticism of YOU.
Love you, JQ
P.S. I'm a mother. Indeed, I am capable of understanding a heart breaking and mending at the same moment. It happens many times a day! There....I was offended also :) But I'm over it ;)
Take care.
Where do I start....I guess for those of you who don't know...Paul does make Judah his number one priority. What father would keep going after all the obstacles given to him. I guess my only answer is being a true dedicated father who believes in a God that has a purpose in all he does. Paul you will continue to be in our prayers....hopefully change is in the path this week :)
Hey Paul...
I also just came over to see if you had done a post for Judah's first birthday yet! Can't wait to see all of his new presents - I'm sure he'll be thrilled. :)
I also wanted to tell you that I was sorry you weren't able to work it out to come see Judah on Thanksgiving, and that you had to miss his birthday visit last weekend! It was nice of you to call, though - I hope you're feeling better!
See you this week.
It was unfortunate that I got the flu my last visit but his birthday was before that, it would have been nice to be there for his party. I can say Jodi that the past couple weeks you have been more willing or open to the idea of me spending more time with Judah and I appreciate that very much. You being flexible makes the situation a whole lot better. I have my assumptions as to why but whatever it is the change of heart is a good change.
P.S. I DID send an email (before my first post). Neither the email or my second post have been answered. I know you're busy - aren't we all :) Are you still using the same hotmail address that appears on this blog?
JQ
Hi Jacquie, I replied to your email two days ago, I'd check your junk mail.
Very nice picture bro. You look and sound like a very proud and happy father.
Your right you never truly understand the love of a parent for a child until you experience it and then Love takes on whole new meanings.
Merry Christmas
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