LOL...sorry to hear that, but maybe wrapping your kid in bubble-wrap and locking them in the closet will keep them from getting hurt. I've also seen kids fall out of trees and break bones as well, should we keep all kids from climbing trees? I understand what you are saying and there needs to be a ballence between letting kids be kids and providing a safe environment for them to be a kid. That's why I am with my son nonstop when he is with me and I keep an eye on him always, but still things happen and we cannot keep them from getting hurt. I would have an eye on him all the time but that choice was taken away from me. If you try keeping that child in a bubble and never let them take chances then you raise a kid in a bubble who is usually scared of stepping out in life. Don't you think the bigger tragedy is a child growing up in a broken home vs jumping on a bed? That would be a fun topic to discuss, I wonder which God hurts more about? Anyway, thanks for your concern, maybe next time you can say something that you like about the videos or how obvious it is that I love my son dearly vs commenting on him jumping on the bed or not. Usually writing positive comments helps us be more positive in person. ;) Take care.
So why don't you enlighten us on who you are rather than leave the occasional "unhelpful" email? My guess is if you were actually trying to be helpful then you wouldn't care who knew you, but being anonymous you can still leave your negative comments. I guess we'll see if you actually care or not. Take care!
Well, I guess I didn't realize saying one of my children broke their arm was a negative comment directed at you. It was simply a comment about something that happened! The intention wasn't to cause you to get so defensive.
LOL...I see you've avoided the opportunity again to disclose who you are..hmm. It's ok, we all have a good idea. ;) Also, it's a little difficult to believe or trust a person who's "bold" enough to say whatever they want but wont be "bold" enough to say who they are. Hmm, got something to hide? I appreciate the touching stories about your children, but since no one knows who you are I'm not even sure if you have children. Oh well, I guess we'll have to leave it as a mystery.
Well, if you must know. My name is Nancy. Heard you preach at one time & while trying to find out more info on your ministry, came across your blog. Don't want to share my last name with you now as you are different here than you were in person. I'm searching for answers & thought you might be able to help with that, but I guess I was wrong.
I stumbled across your blog a few years ago while trying to find your old missions blog that was updated by Jodi. I'm anonymous because you don't know me, but we did go to IWU together (and I did know Jodi). I was very sorry to hear about what had happened since I'd last read your old blog. I'm usually strictly a lurker on all blogs, but I just can't keep from commenting this time.
The number of passive-aggressive comments left here on a regular basis is just ridiculous. This is a blog about someone's child! If you comment on something other than Judah, people get upset. If you post about Judah, people nitpick each and every thing you do or say. What he ate for breakfast, what he wore. I can't believe you've kept as calm and collected as you have.
Now for NB. While her last comments seemed designed to tug at heartstrings and elicit sympathy, I think they are only that. Why, if she is who she says she is, would she comment back in September about Judah's use of a pacifier, and then tease you about guessing her identity? Then her second comment comes 6 months later, and is also a negative comment about your parenting skills? It's possible that she is just some stranger who mistakenly left several passive-aggressive comments for someone who has already received his fair share, but I doubt that very much.
Now, as for jumping on the bed. Yes, you can fall off and break your arm doing that. In fact, my son was running outside holding a kitten and fell and broke his arm. So now I visit strangers' blogs and leave nasty little comments whenever I see pictures of their children running outside, or holding kittens. Don't they know they can break their arms doing things like that???!!!
You're kidding, right? How my comment translates into someone's (anyone's) parenting skills is beyond me! As for the pacifier comment, if you read Paul's blog, he boasts on how grown up Judah is when he is with him, so I found it a little strange that he would then give him a pacifier. But whatever!
Thank you "ME", I wasn't going to entertain "NB" anymore as you are right everything about her is elusive and back-handed. There's no since in argueing or talking with those type people. If "Nancy" was a real person who actually sought me out because I made an impact on her with one of my sermons then she would probably be able to tell me when and where this happened AND what I preached on that night. Also, if I had made such a positive impact on her then I don't think she would come out of the gate guns blazing shooting holes in everything. As for "Nancy" if you thought completely different about me now and have lost some respect then I don't think you'd care too much to share everything with me and my viewers. ;-). Lying and being deceptive must be an issue that runs deep, because if you had true character and integrity then sharing completely who you are wouldn't be a problem...? Why don't you tell me when and where you heard me preach and what was the subject matter? That shouldn't be so hard after the impact I made on you that you could get a details of this famous sermon, right? Be bold, step out on faith, let the world know who N.B. really is! I'm going to take a bet that you wont be able to answer anything and right now you're choking on your own words...sound about right? I started this blog as a way for.people to see my son and my love for him, so if your agenda is different then you might want to find something else to pass the time. When you do I promise you will become a person who is liked rather than being a negative Nancy that no one enjoys. Think about it.
What is the big hang-up about where I've heard you speak? Obviously I have or I wouldn't have know anything about your blog or you. I think the bigger question is when someone tells you they're searching & thought maybe you could help, why are you not more concerned about where I spend eternity since you say you're a pastor? Rather you try to deflect any responsibility for what you might have done to help back onto someone who you seem to feel "threatened" by. If that is your bigger concern, then you have a much bigger problem than I do! God help you and I hope your son has another role model to help steer him in the right direction. You haven't helped me. And I am liked quite well, thank you very much. Done here.
I appreciate that your finally done here "Nancy". I think most people who read my blog appreciate your parting as well. I am glad that you are well liked by many people, maybe next time you wont feel so ashamed about sharing who you are, because usually people who tend to hide their identities usually know they're acting inappropriately, and giving a fake name and story is just a way for them to continue to act in an un-Christ like manner. I'm glad my sermon impacted you as well, but as always hopefully it was the Word of God that affected you and not me, because if you put your faith in man then I'm sorry to say that you will always be disappointed to some extent. A few last words of advice as we part ways, when truly seeking help you should probably be genuine in seeking answers rather than attacking someone you don't really know. You'll probably get the response you desire if you present yourself in a kind, loving, and nonjudgmental way. As well, if you want to continue to be so "well liked" by so many people then you might not want to make parenting judgments and jump to conclusions about a persons character or integrity based on a blog that's updated maybe every 2 or 3 months. If your judgment and your persona ("persona" is an Italian word but is derived from Old Greek meaning your "ACT" or "MASK" basically how you want to be portrayed to others) if that is what you look for online in others and how you want to be viewed by others then I'm guessing those close friends may be more like internet friends than people you live life with? (Just a hunch) Lastly, you do come across online as a very spiteful, bitter, and judgmental person, BUT that truly may not be who you are in the world of the living. You could be a very sweet and a kind hearted person, truly seeking Gods will in your life and if that is true then there should be nothing that you need to hide from. Emails, blogs, letters, books, are HORRIBLE ways to characterize a persons totality, which is why I am asking you now to meet with me whenever you are free. (With your husband if you are married, please) I will even drive to your state if that is what it takes because I truly want your opinion of me to be completely based on who you've dealt with in flesh and blood and not over a series of "emails" that you read from your perspective. I will even come when I have my son so you can make your full assessment of my parenting skills. Just so there are no excuses my email is paulcole@hotmail.com or call me on my cell at 765-620-7036. The ball is in your court now! I truly hope to hear from you, but I'm guessing you'll want to continue to hide so you can quarrel and cast judgment with no personal or character responsibilities. Whatever you choose, may God be with you.
I think it's sweet that so many people are protective of Judah, and I really appreciate everyone looking out for him - all across the country! How they approach it or what they think about either one of us personally doesn't matter much to me... as long as Judah's wellbeing is their focus.
Thanks Nancy and "Me" for checking in on our boy. Any advice about jumping on beds and holding kittens is welcome when it could prevent a child's pain! Especially the kitten part. haha.
Why, thank you, Jodi, for recognizing such a simple comment for what it was! It seems to me that when someone (anyone) gets so defensive over something, they are either paranoid or their toes have been stepped on. What is that saying? I think thou protest too much? (Or something along those lines!).
Hi Paul! I just got your email, so I wanted to come over here and show you something.... there's a box to the right that you can check if you'd like to have Follow-up comments sent your email. It almost sounded like you were accusing me of using false identities (?) since NB commented "just after" me. Clicking that button is how people keep up with a conversation they've participated in. This is also probably how she knew you kept writing to her...? That's my guess. It's just a cool little blogging trick. :)
Oh Jodi, let's see how honest of a person you can be. I'm guessing that you'll evade the question, but let's see. Do you know who NB is? I could care less what her name is, I'm just curious if you know who the person is? That's all. ;-)
Yes, I know who "the person" NB is! She has given plenty of details. It's not a trick, Paul, though you seem determined to believe it is. You aren't aware of the emails I get, so you think this is some kind of freak response, but it's really not that unusual. The unusual part was that it was out loud... to you.
So I guess the question is, do YOU know who it is? And more importantly, does it matter?
I guess what I'm saying is, this should really be about Judah - not me. You're spending all of your time and energy on a witch hunt when you could be posting pictures of our wonderful son! :)
I'm sorry, I'll put away the pitch forks and torches, and call off the lynch mob. You're right, I've put all my time and effort, and I've spent countless nights tossing and turning crying OUT LOUD, "WHO ARE YOU NB!!!!" Woo, I'm glad you helped me get that off my chest. It's a good thing you and your "friend" have been checking my blog three times a day to help keep me under control and accountable for a blog that I might look at once a month and update every 6 months. Thank you for helping me not obsess writing all sorts of horrible things about me and my family on your blog for the entire world to read. Thanks for leading by example!
Hi Kendra. :) I've been looking forward to meeting you.... although I think it may be a little awkward now... haha. Thanks for helping out with Judah this week! He really does enjoy being there. Kiss him goodnight for me. - Jodi
Someone told me about the cute little Spiderman and the bigger version so that's how I ended up on this blog. Don't know the blogger (or any of the commenters) and I see be the profile you are from Indiana and I'm from the Pacific Northwest. Usually I don't comment on blogs, however, this one has proved to be strangely intriguing. The videos of the father and son, no acknowledgement of a mother (particularly interesting on the birth videos, so maybe he is adopted) and the strange comments and lengthy replies by the blogger (who NB indicated was a preacher and that's believable from his writing) has actually inspired a plotline for a short story. As one who enjoys writing, thank you for letting me peek in. Be happy to share my ideas if you are interested.
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One of my children was jumping on their bed (without my permission) & fell off & broke their arm. Just a thought...
LOL...sorry to hear that, but maybe wrapping your kid in bubble-wrap and locking them in the closet will keep them from getting hurt. I've also seen kids fall out of trees and break bones as well, should we keep all kids from climbing trees? I understand what you are saying and there needs to be a ballence between letting kids be kids and providing a safe environment for them to be a kid. That's why I am with my son nonstop when he is with me and I keep an eye on him always, but still things happen and we cannot keep them from getting hurt. I would have an eye on him all the time but that choice was taken away from me. If you try keeping that child in a bubble and never let them take chances then you raise a kid in a bubble who is usually scared of stepping out in life. Don't you think the bigger tragedy is a child growing up in a broken home vs jumping on a bed? That would be a fun topic to discuss, I wonder which God hurts more about? Anyway, thanks for your concern, maybe next time you can say something that you like about the videos or how obvious it is that I love my son dearly vs commenting on him jumping on the bed or not. Usually writing positive comments helps us be more positive in person. ;) Take care.
Hmm, I will have a reply to this. You must have the impression that I'm someone else, maybe?
So why don't you enlighten us on who you are rather than leave the occasional "unhelpful" email? My guess is if you were actually trying to be helpful then you wouldn't care who knew you, but being anonymous you can still leave your negative comments. I guess we'll see if you actually care or not. Take care!
Well, I guess I didn't realize saying one of my children broke their arm was a negative comment directed at you. It was simply a comment about something that happened! The intention wasn't to cause you to get so defensive.
LOL...I see you've avoided the opportunity again to disclose who you are..hmm. It's ok, we all have a good idea. ;) Also, it's a little difficult to believe or trust a person who's "bold" enough to say whatever they want but wont be "bold" enough to say who they are. Hmm, got something to hide? I appreciate the touching stories about your children, but since no one knows who you are I'm not even sure if you have children. Oh well, I guess we'll have to leave it as a mystery.
Well, if you must know. My name is Nancy. Heard you preach at one time & while trying to find out more info on your ministry, came across your blog. Don't want to share my last name with you now as you are different here than you were in person. I'm searching for answers & thought you might be able to help with that, but I guess I was wrong.
No reply? I'd have thought that you might try to remedy the situation since I told you I had been searching for answers.
Hi Paul,
I stumbled across your blog a few years ago while trying to find your old missions blog that was updated by Jodi. I'm anonymous because you don't know me, but we did go to IWU together (and I did know Jodi). I was very sorry to hear about what had happened since I'd last read your old blog. I'm usually strictly a lurker on all blogs, but I just can't keep from commenting this time.
The number of passive-aggressive comments left here on a regular basis is just ridiculous. This is a blog about someone's child! If you comment on something other than Judah, people get upset. If you post about Judah, people nitpick each and every thing you do or say. What he ate for breakfast, what he wore. I can't believe you've kept as calm and collected as you have.
Now for NB. While her last comments seemed designed to tug at heartstrings and elicit sympathy, I think they are only that. Why, if she is who she says she is, would she comment back in September about Judah's use of a pacifier, and then tease you about guessing her identity? Then her second comment comes 6 months later, and is also a negative comment about your parenting skills? It's possible that she is just some stranger who mistakenly left several passive-aggressive comments for someone who has already received his fair share, but I doubt that very much.
Now, as for jumping on the bed. Yes, you can fall off and break your arm doing that. In fact, my son was running outside holding a kitten and fell and broke his arm. So now I visit strangers' blogs and leave nasty little comments whenever I see pictures of their children running outside, or holding kittens. Don't they know they can break their arms doing things like that???!!!
You're kidding, right? How my comment translates into someone's (anyone's) parenting skills is beyond me! As for the pacifier comment, if you read Paul's blog, he boasts on how grown up Judah is when he is with him, so I found it a little strange that he would then give him a pacifier. But whatever!
Thank you "ME", I wasn't going to entertain "NB" anymore as you are right everything about her is elusive and back-handed. There's no since in argueing or talking with those type people. If "Nancy" was a real person who actually sought me out because I made an impact on her with one of my sermons then she would probably be able to tell me when and where this happened AND what I preached on that night. Also, if I had made such a positive impact on her then I don't think she would come out of the gate guns blazing shooting holes in everything. As for "Nancy" if you thought completely different about me now and have lost some respect then I don't think you'd care too much to share everything with me and my viewers. ;-). Lying and being deceptive must be an issue that runs deep, because if you had true character and integrity then sharing completely who you are wouldn't be a problem...? Why don't you tell me when and where you heard me preach and what was the subject matter? That shouldn't be so hard after the impact I made on you that you could get a details of this famous sermon, right? Be bold, step out on faith, let the world know who N.B. really is! I'm going to take a bet that you wont be able to answer anything and right now you're choking on your own words...sound about right? I started this blog as a way for.people to see my son and my love for him, so if your agenda is different then you might want to find something else to pass the time. When you do I promise you will become a person who is liked rather than being a negative Nancy that no one enjoys. Think about it.
What is the big hang-up about where I've heard you speak? Obviously I have or I wouldn't have know anything about your blog or you. I think the bigger question is when someone tells you they're searching & thought maybe you could help, why are you not more concerned about where I spend eternity since you say you're a pastor? Rather you try to deflect any responsibility for what you might have done to help back onto someone who you seem to feel "threatened" by. If that is your bigger concern, then you have a much bigger problem than I do! God help you and I hope your son has another role model to help steer him in the right direction. You haven't helped me. And I am liked quite well, thank you very much. Done here.
I appreciate that your finally done here "Nancy". I think most people who read my blog appreciate your parting as well. I am glad that you are well liked by many people, maybe next time you wont feel so ashamed about sharing who you are, because usually people who tend to hide their identities usually know they're acting inappropriately, and giving a fake name and story is just a way for them to continue to act in an un-Christ like manner. I'm glad my sermon impacted you as well, but as always hopefully it was the Word of God that affected you and not me, because if you put your faith in man then I'm sorry to say that you will always be disappointed to some extent. A few last words of advice as we part ways, when truly seeking help you should probably be genuine in seeking answers rather than attacking someone you don't really know. You'll probably get the response you desire if you present yourself in a kind, loving, and nonjudgmental way. As well, if you want to continue to be so "well liked" by so many people then you might not want to make parenting judgments and jump to conclusions about a persons character or integrity based on a blog that's updated maybe every 2 or 3 months. If your judgment and your persona ("persona" is an Italian word but is derived from Old Greek meaning your "ACT" or "MASK" basically how you want to be portrayed to others) if that is what you look for online in others and how you want to be viewed by others then I'm guessing those close friends may be more like internet friends than people you live life with? (Just a hunch) Lastly, you do come across online as a very spiteful, bitter, and judgmental person, BUT that truly may not be who you are in the world of the living. You could be a very sweet and a kind hearted person, truly seeking Gods will in your life and if that is true then there should be nothing that you need to hide from. Emails, blogs, letters, books, are HORRIBLE ways to characterize a persons totality, which is why I am asking you now to meet with me whenever you are free. (With your husband if you are married, please) I will even drive to your state if that is what it takes because I truly want your opinion of me to be completely based on who you've dealt with in flesh and blood and not over a series of "emails" that you read from your perspective. I will even come when I have my son so you can make your full assessment of my parenting skills. Just so there are no excuses my email is paulcole@hotmail.com or call me on my cell at 765-620-7036. The ball is in your court now! I truly hope to hear from you, but I'm guessing you'll want to continue to hide so you can quarrel and cast judgment with no personal or character responsibilities. Whatever you choose, may God be with you.
I think it's sweet that so many people are protective of Judah, and I really appreciate everyone looking out for him - all across the country! How they approach it or what they think about either one of us personally doesn't matter much to me... as long as Judah's wellbeing is their focus.
Thanks Nancy and "Me" for checking in on our boy. Any advice about jumping on beds and holding kittens is welcome when it could prevent a child's pain! Especially the kitten part. haha.
Why, thank you, Jodi, for recognizing such a simple comment for what it was! It seems to me that when someone (anyone) gets so defensive over something, they are either paranoid or their toes have been stepped on. What is that saying? I think thou protest too much? (Or something along those lines!).
Hi Paul!
I just got your email, so I wanted to come over here and show you something.... there's a box to the right that you can check if you'd like to have Follow-up comments sent your email.
It almost sounded like you were accusing me of using false identities (?) since NB commented "just after" me.
Clicking that button is how people keep up with a conversation they've participated in. This is also probably how she knew you kept writing to her...? That's my guess.
It's just a cool little blogging trick. :)
Oh Jodi, let's see how honest of a person you can be. I'm guessing that you'll evade the question, but let's see. Do you know who NB is? I could care less what her name is, I'm just curious if you know who the person is? That's all. ;-)
Yes, I know who "the person" NB is! She has given plenty of details. It's not a trick, Paul, though you seem determined to believe it is. You aren't aware of the emails I get, so you think this is some kind of freak response, but it's really not that unusual. The unusual part was that it was out loud... to you.
So I guess the question is, do YOU know who it is? And more importantly, does it matter?
I guess what I'm saying is, this should really be about Judah - not me. You're spending all of your time and energy on a witch hunt when you could be posting pictures of our wonderful son! :)
I'm sorry, I'll put away the pitch forks and torches, and call off the lynch mob. You're right, I've put all my time and effort, and I've spent countless nights tossing and turning crying OUT LOUD, "WHO ARE YOU NB!!!!" Woo, I'm glad you helped me get that off my chest. It's a good thing you and your "friend" have been checking my blog three times a day to help keep me under control and accountable for a blog that I might look at once a month and update every 6 months. Thank you for helping me not obsess writing all sorts of horrible things about me and my family on your blog for the entire world to read. Thanks for leading by example!
Hi Kendra. :)
I've been looking forward to meeting you.... although I think it may be a little awkward now... haha.
Thanks for helping out with Judah this week! He really does enjoy being there. Kiss him goodnight for me.
- Jodi
I know your heart is in the right place. I do appreciate your input.
I hope you guys have had a great first month - it sounds like you have! Blessings to you, too. :)
Someone told me about the cute little Spiderman and the bigger version so that's how I ended up on this blog. Don't know the blogger (or any of the commenters) and I see be the profile you are from Indiana and I'm from the Pacific Northwest.
Usually I don't comment on blogs, however, this one has proved to be strangely intriguing. The videos of the father and son, no acknowledgement of a mother (particularly interesting on the birth videos, so maybe he is adopted) and the strange comments and lengthy replies by the blogger (who NB indicated was a preacher and that's believable from his writing) has actually inspired a plotline for a short story.
As one who enjoys writing, thank you for letting me peek in. Be happy to share my ideas if you are interested.
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